i love sir patrick stewart more with each passing day.

See, guys. This is how you do it. Notice the words “Not all men are like that” are never spoken.

He knows men are like that

his father was like that to his mother

he has experienced the pain firsthand, of what it’s like when men are like that

and he never wants men to be like that again and he fights tooth and nail against the men who are still like that

And moreover, he acknowledges his privilege [as an older white male who is famous/well known] and uses it to speak up. He knows what he is, and he never has to say he’s not like those men he fights against—he never says it, his actions speak loud enough for everyone else to see it. 

Sir Patrick Stewart, everyone.

he also shuts down that shit of ‘it takes two to have a fight’ bc he, like many of us from abusive homes, know that that is in no way true. he talks about listening for his dad to see what/how he was singing when he was coming home bc you could have an idea of how bad it would be by what he was singing… and i relate so much with that. i spent so many days/nights fearing certain music and certain volumes of music bc you knew just leaving your room to get food or go to the bathroom was going to cause an outburst

He loses credibility for working with Seth MacFarlane on a show like American Dad. He voices a disgustingly misogynistic character.

He makes money perpetuating misogyny, etc.
I don’t see how that is justifiable or not hypocritical.

Chronic illness
Friend: Why can't you come today?
Me: Yesterday I did a thing





Ratchet is a racialized term. So is ghetto. So is thug. So is welfare queen. Someone does not have to EXPLICITLY say the word “black” in order for something to be racist against black people. Speaking in flagrantly racist terms is one of the least sophisticated manifestations of racism today.
TemperedFury on Philip DeFranco’s, creator of the YouTube channel Philly D, use of racialized language.  (via knowledgeequalsblackpower)

I bet you’ve never seen a Baby Tree Kangaroo


I bet you’ve never seen a Baby Tree Kangaroo




this is important.

All those yokels who claim Chronic Fatigue Syndrome isn't real should rewatch Golden Girls. There's this whole 2-part episode where Dorothy's doc doesn't believe there's anything really wrong w her and then she learns she has CFS. They go out for a fancy dinner to celebrate having found a name for her condition and see the asshole dr from earlier, and she gets to confront him and it's glorious. And then Sophia cons the restaraunt out of some very expensive champagne, because Sophia. 1989, folks.



I have seen it!

I love the Golden Girls and a lot of the time I feel like I am channeling Bea Aurthur when I am answering anons. 

The sad part is that there are still doctors like that today. I’ve been to a few that dismissed me. Told me to see a psychiatrist. (Which if they looked at my chart, they would have seen that I already was.) They told me I was just fat and unmotivated.

"Probably just depressed."

The worst was about six years ago. My regular doctor had been very ill and had to transfer his patients. I made an appointment with the new doctor because I needed a refill on my Lunesta. Sleeping pills can help me get a slightly deeper sleep which helps my CFS be a tad more manageable. 

This doctor did all the doctory things. The tongue depressor with the “auuuuuugh” thing. The stethoscope deep breath thing. The little hammer on the knee thing. Squeezy arm cuffs.

When all that was through I asked him for a refill of my medicine. He started giving me the third degree about why I needed sleeping pills. He said they were dangerous for someone with depression. I told him they were non-narcotic sleep aids. No more dangerous than Tylenol PM and a lot more effective.

He disagreed.

I told him I had CFS and they helped me get more restful sleep. Without them it is much harder to function. He looked at my chart and noticed I saw a psychiatrist. He told me that CFS wasn’t real. He said it was “bored housewife syndrome” and that he had never seen a young male patient claim to have it.

He said that my issues were probably just in my head. He said I was too heavy and that if I am tired, that is likely why. I began disputing him. I started crying because he refused to give me the pills. I told him how important they were. How he would be dooming me to more miserable days than I already have.

"Are you really crying? Are you not a man? I think you have more mental issues than you led me to believe. I’m going to have to consult with your other doctor."  

Right there in front of me, he called my psychiatrist and questioned her about my claims. He asked her if I had any other mental issues besides depression. He told her that I kept lying to him and was trying to trick him into giving me sleeping pills. That I was fake crying to convince him.

After he hung up the phone call, he told me she doubted me as well and that it was all in my head. That I was faking an illness for attention and all I really needed was a good diet and some exercise. He refused to give me sleeping pills and said I need to work with her to address my other issues. To figure out the “real reason” I had trouble sleeping. 

I later called her, still crying and upset, and was confused as to why she would say those things to him and not me. She told me that she never said anything like that.

He lied to me.

He really did that. 

My psychiatrist and I bonded in anger at this other doctor. She wrote me the prescription I needed, but I had to go a week without those pills. A very hard, sucky week.

Needless to say, I never returned to him again.

People think only anons say these things because they can hide their identity. But these accusations and doubts come from friends, family members, co-workers, strangers… and yes, even doctors. Granted, they are usually older doctors who haven’t updated their medical knowledge since they left school… but it still happens. 

This is a link to Dorothy’s confrontation. It’s a great moment for those with an invisible illness to relate to, but I encourage everyone to watch it. 

"People think only anons say these things because they can hide their identity. But these accusations and doubts come from friends, family members, co-workers, strangers… and yes, even doctors."

says a chronically ill person when they are in so much pain a regular person would be in the ER (via concussedperspective)


do you know how disorienting and misleading those “body language secrets” posts are. do you. as someone who has painstakingly gone through the process of learning other peoples’ body language- something that is typically second nature to other people- i need to tell you that…